Everyone wants to be with someone they’re attracted to. Thankfully, we all have different “types” making it easier for us all not to fight over the Brad Pitts and Halle Berrys. Some people like the Carson Dalys and Roseannes. Regardless of what your type is, you want to think the person you’re attracted to is cute, up to your physical standard. But then you wonder just how cute you are. Are you a movie star (after the airbrushing), an average person or a hobbit? Are you up to your own physical standard?
When it comes to attraction, we’re all faced with three situations. Which one would you prefer?
1.) You’re cuter than your partner. What do you do if you know you’re more attractive than your significant other? Does it boost your confidence or make you worry they’re only with you for your looks? Is the connection strong enough for you not to desire a cuter boy/girlfriend?
2.) You’re partner’s cuter than you are. Everyone wants to be with someone gorgeous (by their terms) but how does that make you feel when you look at photos of you two? Are you proud of what you’ve been able to snag? Or are you wondering when they’ll stop playing around with you and move on to an equally beautiful person?
3.) You’re equally attractive. This is a difficult balance to reach. We see this most often at the extremes. Either you are a Ken and Barbie couple or you both look like someone beat you with the couple’s ugly stick. With “average” looking couples, there’s bound to be one person that’s more attractive than the other. It just depends on whether you’re considering faces or body types.
So where do you typically fall? Are you just a beautiful person who can’t seem to find anyone as attractive as them? Or an ugly person vainly striving to catch that one beautiful person to give your children hope?
I’d like to believe that I am pleasantly average. There’s nothing too offensive about my appearance. While there are things that could be better (small bosom and magically disappearing top lip) but there are also things that could be far worse (suffering from noassatall or having fat feet).
I’ve recently considered how I would feel about dating someone I knew was much more attractive than I was. While I’d like to believe I’d embrace this as an opportunity to bask in beauty’s glow at every possible chance, I don’t know if my ego could really take that. Would I be able to overcome my insecurities and accept that person could think I’m also beautiful and like me for me? Probably not right now in my self-evolution. I’m not that comfortable with myself yet. Instead, I think I would assume they were just passing time with me until a barbie walked by. If their face is mesmerizing, shouldn’t their partners be? If they have the sculpted body, shouldn’t their partner? Wouldn’t you want to believe you contributed to the cuteness of a couple’s picture?
If the person I’m dating is more than attractive than I am, I think we ‘ll both need to be closer to average than either extreme.
In search of her above-average beau,
Jo’van
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The Truth: According to Jo'van 
Talking in purely physical terms, I would hope to have an equally attractive partner – it’s just easier. But in my opinion the other options can be just as easy and fun – it all depends on how confident you feel about yourself and the relationship you have with that person.
You may initially be attracted to someone because of their looks, but compatibility, chemistry and love will be the true indicators of a cute couple…at least in your own eyes, they should be.
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