Shades of Understanding: Blacknowledgement

Carlos Santana featuring Seal “You Are My Kind”

I thought I was being a clever wordsmith but, alas, a Google search has proven me wrong.

UrbanDictionary.com describes  blacknowledgement as “the process by which a Black person acknowledges another black person’s presence in a social environment where black people are scarce or otherwise absent. These environments include places and events like: lacrosse parties, ice hockey games, early morning classes, Russia and The Ku Klux Clan Annual General Meeting.  Blacknowledgement is a show of solidarity and support indicating to another black person that you understand their social anxiety and feel their inner torment.”

Stuff-About.com goes further with “A blacknowledgement can be executed using anything from a simple nod to a well executed six part, click and snap, integrated handshake. In less friendly situations, a blacknowledgement may be used as a territorial gesture. It can be used to signal to another black person that you are the resident black person in that environment and that they should cower off and find non-black friends of their own. Many black people feel that their novelty wears thin when they find out that they are not the “token black person” anymore.”

Whether I agree with these definitions 100% or not, they are the basis and blacknowledgement exists and is prevalent.

I started “realizing” blacknowledgement a few years ago but it’s been a part of my life as far back as I can remember.  When I am in public and see another black person across the room, across the street, in the boardroom or behind the counter, I acknowledge my recognition of their permanent tan.  It’s generally subtle, typically eye contact and a nod will suffice.   But it’s there.  Since I recognize I’m doing it, I’ll try not to go out of my way.  Some people will make it a POINT to go out of their way to reach out to you, especially in professional or large group social settings.  Even though, I may not make giant strides across a room to shake your hand, if you do not at least make eye contact, I feel slighted.  Ridiculous or not.

As I came to “realize” my unconscious blacknowledgement, I tried to figure out how I’d explain it, especially to non-black people.  Why do it?  Who taught me to do it?  Consequences of not doing it?  Really I don’t know.  I imagine it’s truly (good or bad) just acknowledging someone somewhat like you.  Sure you could have different backgrounds and experiences but in whatever situation you’re currently in you’re both at least (if not only) black.  As someone whose professional and social circles do not regularly include many chocolate-hued faces, it is somewhat comforting to see another black person in those groups.  And it doesn’t matter what part of the country you’re in.  I’ve experienced blacknowledgement in Tennessee, Texas, New York City, Chicago, San Francisco and Ames, IA.

How did I learn?  I have absolutely no idea.  No one ever told me to do it or even discussed the phenomenon with me.  I think I just learned by watching the adults in my family and recognizing other people were doing it to me.  Either way, I am a well-established participant in regular blacknowledgement.

I’m not aware of any consequences.  But I’d imagine some people may feel slighted.  For whatever reason, I do at times.  Brown faces in a sea of beige and pink stick out.  No one’s truly THAT race/color-blind.  I know you saw me…

So what are we to learn about/from blacknowledgement?  I’m really not sure.  I don’t see anything intrinsically wrong with acknowledging the other black people around me.  I don’t ignore all non-black people in the same situations.  It’s just an extra.  I imagine I do the same thing when in situations with only one or two more women.  However, for whatever reason, 1.) I’m more often the only African-American than woman, 2.) I’m less uncomfortable as the only woman, and 3.) There is a sense of potential competition with the “other woman” that I can’t say I feel with the “other black”.

I imagine I’ll go on acknowledging my brothers and sisters and laughing a little when I realize I’m doing it.  To further overuse a corporate crutch word, I’m just acknowledging diversity (one type, but diversity just the same).

Is this unique to African-Americans?  Do other ethnicities and/or groups do this?

Acknowledging anyone who read this, black or not,

Jo’van

Shades of Understanding: Finally a Black Disney Princess

A clip of the song “Almost There” from Disney’s “The Princess and the Frog”

Over the Christmas holidays, I took my mother and grandmother to go see Disney’s “The Princess and the Frog”.  Three generations of black women sat in a movie theater in the middle of the day on a Wednesday to somewhat celebrate Disney’s first black Disney princess.

I won’t give the movie away but it IS a Disney movie afterall.  There’s a sweet, smart young woman facing hardships that can only be righted with hard work, magic, music and a man she hates only to eventually love.

Now when the buzz about the movie began  a few months ago, I heard critics praise Disney’s move to finally include African-Americans in their special princess clique and others berate Disney for having the first and only black princess only be a human for 1/4 of the movie.  (You see Tiana turns into a frog when she kisses the cursed prince…)

You know, I get it.  I see both points and why people would be so upset.  What other princess is an animal the vast majority of the movie?  The closest I can think of is Ariel in The Little Mermaid.  But at least she was human-like  from the waist up.  Is this unfair?  Maybe.  Would I prefer to see Tiana as the beautiful human rather than the adorable frog?  Maybe.  But do I (want to) believe Disney was being racist?  No, not really.

Of the nine “Disney Princesses“, four of them were already princesses.  The other five were peasants, poor, lower class beauties who strived for equality and success and became princesses.  Tiana is one of these five.  Would it’ve been nice to avoid some of the stereotypes?  Sure.  Were the accents and assumptions of lower education all that necessary?  Probably not.  But the fact that Tiana is a poor, black, and from New Orleans isn’t such a bad or surprising thing.  Disney (and most entertainment companies) play on stereotypes.  While the heroine was poor and black, her rich, spoiled friend was a little round, blond and always in pink.  The prince was beautiful and immature.  The villain was thin and dark (in fact he looked very much like The Lion King’s Scar).  Her friends were bumbling and sweet, parents supportive and wise.  And most importantly, Tiana’s success was based (mostly) on her determination, intelligence and big heart.

Growing up, my mother made a conscious effort to surround me with dolls who looked like myself.  Why get me a blond Barbie?  Beauty was defined as blond, blue-eyed and pale everywhere outside of my home, even on the television and books within it.  Why force her daughter to stare at and idolize something she’ll never be?  Was giving me all black dolls a little extreme?  Yeah, maybe.  But you know what?  I grew up thinking Christie was just a pretty as Barbie.  Barbie just had better outfits.  Plus, my grandmother and stepmother added a little diversity to my dolls with Barbies (blond), Midges (red head), Teresas (brunette/Hispanic), Skippers (blond little sister) and Kens (blond boyfriend).  And you know, Christie didn’t even need Ken.  She had Steven.  I played with them all.  Barbies, Cabbage Patch dolls, average baby dolls.  If I’d had more/any asian dolls, my trunk would’ve looked like Brangelina’s brood.

Conclusion:  If I were 7 (shoot, maybe even at 25), I’d want a Tiana Barbie.  She was pretty, smart, brave and successful.  And it’s finally nice to have a Disney princess who looks like me.  And you know what else?  After Pocahontas, Tiana’s the 2nd American princess.  Fancy that!

Contemplating asking for my first Barbie in 15 years,

Jo’van

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