The World…As I See It: Striving to be an Expert at Something

Not a “good” song but the first one that came to mind…

When I Grow Up – Pussycat Dolls

When we were all in primary school, family, teachers and friends constantly asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”.  If you were anything like me, the answer to that question changed quite drastically, quite often.  (That is if you had an answer at all…)

At my kindergarten graduation, I proudly, and much to the surprise of my mother, announced that unlike my female classmates who wanted to be doctors or ballerinas, I wanted to be a policewoman (emphasis on the woman).  By elementary school I’d moved on to a more traditional veterinarian, only to develop an allergy to cats.  During middle school, I wanted to be a pop singer.  In junior high, a criminologist.  And by college, I happily followed the degree track for public relations.

At those times in my life, my goals and decisions were based solely on perception.  I have no idea where the policewoman came from but for everything else, those careers seemed cool and were (somewhat) related to my interests.  I loved dogs so obviously I was supposed to become a vet.  Music has been a long time passion of mine and I have a pretty good singing voice (patting myself on the back) so a pop singer it was.

Due to my analytical and potentially scientific mind and far too many episodes of Law and Order and CSI, a criminologist sounded pretty cool.  The idea of being a (functional) part of the justice system and proving people wrong without having to carry a gun or put myself in any real danger sounded like a great idea to me.

Our senior year high school counselor for whatever reason suggested I consider public relations.  I understood little more than the concept of a publicist but with a little research, PR sounded like a good fit.  I studied it for four years, learned just how relative it was, felt confident I had the necessary skill sets and GOT A JOB a month after I graduated!!!  Three years of loyal service was simply not enough to keep me employed during the “Great Recession.”  Working in a non-essential industry when your clients are facing financial and employee losses is not a good place to be… LAID OFF!

A couple of months later, I was fortunate enough to land a position in economic development for a prosperous city.  And there I am.  Very interesting, right?  Ok, probably not so much but my point is I have no better idea what I want to be when I grow up now than I did in kindergarten.  The only thing that’s really changed is having a better idea of what I DON’T want to be.

I’ve worked in areas that I was “good at” but that I didn’t find all that interesting.  In other words, I could do it but didn’t really want to.  The idea of becoming an “expert” in those areas sounded like a chore, rather than a goal.  A possibility, not a passion.

This concept of becoming an expert in my job is neither to my credit nor discredit.  It’s a part of my current boss’s mantra.  She wants her staff to be more than just “good” at what we do.  She wants us to strive to be and to also be considered by other people experts in our areas.  For the sake of her/our business, that goal makes complete sense.  In an industry/job equally influenced by skill AND perception, we need to be experts on the topic or at least on the experts.  The concept being sound there are still two very important questions to ask: 1.) Can YOU become an expert in your area? and 2.) Do you WANT to?  It’s okay if you can’t say immediately say yes to either but you should be working your way toward a definitive answer.

I have a strong feeling I’m not in my final career path.  Who knows where life experiences, tv shows, personal suggestions and random encounters will take me?  All I can hope is they’ll all lead me to a place I love and want to be.  I hope to be able to do more than sufficiently answer the question.  I hope to be able to find ways to get you to ask the question just so I can answer it with more information than you knew you wanted.  🙂  To be a fountain of knowledge, however useless it might be.  I’ve started that collection of random information in relation to contemporary music.  But maybe I should work on identifying a more “realistic” or at least useful subject.  I need another passion.

Two questions for you: What are you an “expert” in and is that in any way related to your current occupation?

Jo’van

Office Appropriate: Corporate Crushes

Again not completely applicable but I couldn’t resist.  (OK, not applicable at all but it came to mind.)  Belle & Sebastian “Step Into My Office Baby”

It’s a well-known fact that even the mildly talented musicians, artists and dancers make woman swoon.  As much as I’d like to count myself out of this group, I can’t.  John Mayer, Robin Thicke, John Legend, Rob Thomas, Brian McKnight, Usher and the like may be (mildly) talented but they’re not necessarily all that attractive.  (I’ve chosen to go with off the top of my head, relatively current singers/musicians because that’s my world but feel free to fill in the blanks for yourself.)  I wouldn’t go so far as to say any of these men are “ugly” per se.  BUT they all go from “good” to “good Lord” in the eyes of most female fans when they perform (or you listen to their CD, since few artists are actually good live nowadays.  Back in my day…)  Most men, that are not artists, dancers or musicians, find this change annoying.  How can they possibly compete?

The simple answer is: You probably can’t.  But if the situation presents itself, it’s about being passionate about something other people understand.  Put simply “Passion is attractive.”  When a man’s genuinely excited about something he’s created or figured out (as long as it’s not COMPLETELY out of your realm of understanding/agreement), I usually find his description intriguing.  You may not be able to follow every detail, you follow his emotion.  The intrigue may have something to do with hoping he’d one day be that passionate about you but that would be deeply subconscious if at all.  I think it’s more that passion is just attractive.

Musicians, artists, dancers – generally anyone in the creative arts – have it pretty easy.  I mean they still have to be creative and seen as good but their passion is (usually) connected to their craft.  And their crafts are available for mass consumption.  People have deep emotional (and sometimes physical) reactions to visual and auditory stimuli.  Expressive art is only truly expressive once the viewer has connected it to something they understand.  Romantic music has little impact until the listener begins to daydream and/or reminisce.  Dancers are interesting because the audience begins to wish their movements were as powerful and expressive.  It all comes down to feeling something and in that way, the creative arts have it easy.

So what’s the common man to do?  To be perfectly honest, I don’t know.  I have no idea what to tell you.  Yes, I realize I just set this whole comparison up with no resolution but what can I say?  This blog is just a place to dump thoughts.  🙂  I wanted to give a little background to what I’ve coined “Corporate Crushes.”

Over the last few years (since leaving college really), I’ve had the pleasure/obligation of being tasked with relationship building and consulting.  These are vague terms, I understand.  And I intend to keep them that way.  The important thing to note is that part of my job has been to listen and determine how my organization can help.  This required level of listening often lends itself to being exposed to other people’s passions.

(For whatever reason, the majority of the people I encounter are men.  I’m sure a corporate crush could translate to a woman.  But in my (straight) case, I imagine it would be more of a desired mentor than a crush per se.  Anyway….)

As I listen to these men pitch/explain/complain to me, I realize little corporate crushes.  I’m in no way actually attracted to them.  It’s not at all a physical thing.  On the contrary, it’s a simple desire to help them realize their passions, a desire to share their temporary passionate outburst.  Their sincerity is usually heartwarming.  It’s almost like kids with a new toy and business plan.  While I’m sure none of the 35+, C-suite executives would agree with my categorization, it’s just my initial reaction.  I can’t help it.

Corporate crushes aren’t anything to be ashamed of.  I’m not falling head over heels or offering unrealistic expectations.  And the passion has to be backed up by reality.  But if everything falls into place, I walk away thinking “How can I help?  I want to help.”  If they were musicians, I’d walk away in search of the merch table.

Does anyone else experience these temporary “Corporate Crushes”?

Jo’van

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